In the age of social media the concept of genuinely loving oneself seems far fetched. A tsunami of images of so called “perfection” can really let the insecurities fester, can’t they? While all these expectations cause you to slowly lose everything about yourself that made you uniquely YOU.
I wish I could go back to my childhood for just a moment. Life was more simple. I was more concerned over going outside to play kickball than worrying or obsessing over my appearance or other people. Maybe it’s due to the fact I didn’t grow up with social media. My childhood was innocent & carefree. With a little shift in mindset, I think we all can get back to that way of life with a few reminders.
STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS
It’s human nature to compare yourself to other people. In a positive light it’s seen as inspiration. It’s when you are spiraling out of control, scrolling through people’s highlight reels & comparing those moments to your mundane life when it becomes unhealthy. Of course, looking at someone’s feed of international travel pictures, taken with high quality cameras & photoshop & comparing it to you lounging on the couch, hands deep in a cheeto bag while watching Gilmore Girls for the 1,000th time probably will cause you to contemplate your life choices. But who’s to say that photo of a sunset beach picture isn’t a stock photo on Google & that person you are envying is doing the exact same thing as you?
STOP BEING YOUR BIGGEST CRITIC
We really need to start being kinder to ourselves. We place so much pressure on ourselves to meet standards we hardly can obtain. Instead, taking a step back & shifting our mindsets could actually lead us to happiness & success much easier. Here’s a crazy thought, maybe we don’t need a ton of friends to be well liked. Or we don’t need all the money in the world to feel complete. I used to always focus on the ideas of “getting there” instead of enjoying the journey. I would say things like, “I’ll be happier when I’m in a relationship.” Or “I’ll be happier once I graduate college.” The funny thing about life is once you’ve met one goal of “getting there”, you always have something else right around the corner. If you didn’t just stop & enjoy where you are & what you have in the moment, you won’t be in this constant race of trying to always be “getting there.”
REMEMBER TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
Whenever I was feeling my worst, I always seemed to let myself go. It’s almost like you are punishing yourself by neglecting all aspects of your life. It’s like if we are feeling shitty, we might as well be looking shitty too. We think we are not deserving of a nice outfit or eating healthy. If we don’t catch this dark hole of self hate, we become numb to the idea of treating our body & soul well. Instead, we have to remember to carve out some “me time”. Get dressed up, take yourself out & let yourself relax for once. You deserve it.
BE MORE LIGHT HEARTED
I’m the pot calling the kettle black with this one. But we must learn not to take life so damn seriously. Life will always be this rollercoaster of good & bad moments. It’s how we perceive those situations where we find the true peace within it all. Ever since I learned how to laugh at myself, I was able to see life in a more positive light. Most things work their way out eventually. And I realized when my mindset changed to a more light hearted mentality, life became easier & I slowly started to love everything about myself, even my flaws.