Self Growth

How To Truly Love Yourself

In the age of social media the concept of genuinely loving oneself seems far fetched. A tsunami of images of so called “perfection” can really let the insecurities fester, can’t they? While all these expectations cause you to slowly lose everything about yourself that made you uniquely YOU.

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I wish I could go back to my childhood for just a moment. Life was more simple. I was more concerned over going outside to play kickball than worrying or obsessing over my appearance or other people. Maybe it’s due to the fact I didn’t grow up with social media. My childhood was innocent & carefree. With a little shift in mindset, I think we all can get back to that way of life with a few reminders.


It’s human nature to compare yourself to other people. In a positive light it’s seen as inspiration. It’s when you are spiraling out of control, scrolling through people’s highlight reels & comparing those moments to your mundane life when it becomes unhealthy. Of course, looking at someone’s feed of international travel pictures, taken with high quality cameras & photoshop & comparing it to you lounging on the couch, hands deep in a cheeto bag while watching Gilmore Girls for the 1,000th time probably will cause you to contemplate your life choices. But who’s to say that photo of a sunset beach picture isn’t a stock photo on Google & that person you are envying is doing the exact same thing as you?


We really need to start being kinder to ourselves. We place so much pressure on ourselves to meet standards we hardly can obtain. Instead, taking a step back & shifting our mindsets could actually lead us to happiness & success much easier. Here’s a crazy thought, maybe we don’t need a ton of friends to be well liked. Or we don’t need all the money in the world to feel complete. I used to always focus on the ideas of “getting there” instead of enjoying the journey. I would say things like, “I’ll be happier when I’m in a relationship.” Or “I’ll be happier once I graduate college.” The funny thing about life is once you’ve met one goal of “getting there”, you always have something else right around the corner. If you didn’t just stop & enjoy where you are & what you have in the moment, you won’t be in this constant race of trying to always be “getting there.”


Whenever I was feeling my worst, I always seemed to let myself go. It’s almost like you are punishing yourself by neglecting all aspects of your life. It’s like if we are feeling shitty, we might as well be looking shitty too. We think we are not deserving of a nice outfit or eating healthy. If we don’t catch this dark hole of self hate, we become numb to the idea of treating our body & soul well. Instead, we have to remember to carve out some “me time”. Get dressed up, take yourself out & let yourself relax for once. You deserve it.


I’m the pot calling the kettle black with this one. But we must learn not to take life so damn seriously. Life will always be this rollercoaster of good & bad moments. It’s how we perceive those situations where we find the true peace within it all. Ever since I learned how to laugh at myself, I was able to see life in a more positive light. Most things work their way out eventually. And I realized when my mindset changed to a more light hearted mentality, life became easier & I slowly started to love everything about myself, even my flaws.

72 thoughts on “How To Truly Love Yourself”

  1. It’s true, social media can really affect our mental health forcing ya to focus on others and their perfections when we should be focused on building ourselves a happy life.

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  2. Thanks for sharing, I really enjoyed reading this. I’m definitely guilty of comparing my life to other people’s far too much, it always feels like everyone else has their life far more sorted out than I do, especially when you only see their highlights on social media. Reading your blog has helped me remember I need to stop myself doing that so much!

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    1. It’s so easy to do & we all are guilty of it. But I always try to remember most of social media is exaggerated & it’s healthier to focus on my own life and make it the best it can be. so happy my post helped you in that way! πŸ™‚


  3. These are some great tips to help you on your journey to self love. I am wanting to work on myself this year my physical and mental health. I have been learning how to be kinder to myself and I have been showing up for myself and it is a great feeling to be positive about yourself rather than negative. Thank you for sharing this post. Have a fabulous February!

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  4. I think the best thing I’ve done for myself is to become my own best friend and cheerleader. That’s all you need to deal with all the negativity out there.

    All the best, Michelle (

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  5. Wonderful advice. The best thing I ever did for myself is to stop worrying what other people think of me and say about me. Once I did that, I experienced freedom like I’d never known. Thank you for posting. πŸ™‚


  6. This is beautifully written✨
    We need stop and take a moment and see what we have achieved. I think with this fast faced world, we are constantly trying to play catch-up and forget about present moment.

    Self care is holy🧑 x

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  7. This was so much needed! Thank you for this lovely post! Learning to love myself little more everyday and show compassion towards myself x Pen/

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  8. This post was spot on! I’m good for feeling like everything is failing when one thing isn’t going right. I’ve been a work in progress in that area, and I’m improving more and more everyday! No lies about going back to being children. I often ask my parents if I can come back home. I told them I’d leave my husband and three sons. LOL!

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  9. Well said! There is too much emphasis on conformity in my country, which makes it hard to be an outlier like me. We need to bring American exceptionalism back by embracing all types of diversity, especially diversity of thought, and that starts with embracing our own individualism and uniqueness. Thank you!

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  10. Absolutely! The best way to truly love yourself is to be honest with yourself. What do you like to do, what do you love, etc. By knowing who you are, you’ll know how to approach things. Not comparing yourself with others will always be a challenge I’m willing to take — it’s difficult but it’s one of the best ways to realize my worth. I also agree with what you said about being light-hearted. Taking life too seriously is dangerous and no fun at all. Thanks for sharing!

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  11. Great advice!! lovely post πŸ’•. I stop wondering what other people think of me because I don’t care because I am me and no one can be me because I am myself and I am worthy and unique and I do not need to worry about other people’s opinions. Great reminders for all of us πŸ’•πŸ’•

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