In the age of social media the concept of genuinely loving oneself seems far fetched. A tsunami of images of so called “perfection” can really let the insecurities fester, can’t they? While all these expectations cause you to slowly lose everything about yourself that made you uniquely YOU.

I wish I could go back to my childhood for just a moment. Life was more simple. I was more concerned over going outside to play kickball than worrying or obsessing over my appearance or other people. Maybe it’s due to the fact I didn’t grow up with social media. My childhood was innocent & carefree. With a little shift in mindset, I think we all can get back to that way of life with a few reminders.
STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS
It’s human nature to compare yourself to other people. In a positive light it’s seen as inspiration. It’s when you are spiraling out of control, scrolling through people’s highlight reels & comparing those moments to your mundane life when it becomes unhealthy. Of course, looking at someone’s feed of international travel pictures, taken with high quality cameras & photoshop & comparing it to you lounging on the couch, hands deep in a cheeto bag while watching Gilmore Girls for the 1,000th time probably will cause you to contemplate your life choices. But who’s to say that photo of a sunset beach picture isn’t a stock photo on Google & that person you are envying is doing the exact same thing as you?
STOP BEING YOUR BIGGEST CRITIC
We really need to start being kinder to ourselves. We place so much pressure on ourselves to meet standards we hardly can obtain. Instead, taking a step back & shifting our mindsets could actually lead us to happiness & success much easier. Here’s a crazy thought, maybe we don’t need a ton of friends to be well liked. Or we don’t need all the money in the world to feel complete. I used to always focus on the ideas of “getting there” instead of enjoying the journey. I would say things like, “I’ll be happier when I’m in a relationship.” Or “I’ll be happier once I graduate college.” The funny thing about life is once you’ve met one goal of “getting there”, you always have something else right around the corner. If you didn’t just stop & enjoy where you are & what you have in the moment, you won’t be in this constant race of trying to always be “getting there.”
REMEMBER TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
Whenever I was feeling my worst, I always seemed to let myself go. It’s almost like you are punishing yourself by neglecting all aspects of your life. It’s like if we are feeling shitty, we might as well be looking shitty too. We think we are not deserving of a nice outfit or eating healthy. If we don’t catch this dark hole of self hate, we become numb to the idea of treating our body & soul well. Instead, we have to remember to carve out some “me time”. Get dressed up, take yourself out & let yourself relax for once. You deserve it.
BE MORE LIGHT HEARTED
I’m the pot calling the kettle black with this one. But we must learn not to take life so damn seriously. Life will always be this rollercoaster of good & bad moments. It’s how we perceive those situations where we find the true peace within it all. Ever since I learned how to laugh at myself, I was able to see life in a more positive light. Most things work their way out eventually. And I realized when my mindset changed to a more light hearted mentality, life became easier & I slowly started to love everything about myself, even my flaws.

Love this! So true that you are your biggest critic – something I’m guilty of. Being kind to ourselves is so so important 💗
Caroline | https://envirolineblog.com/
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i think we all have been guilty of this from time to time. It really is. We need to be our own biggest fans 💕
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Really lovely post. So true ❤️
Thanks for sharing
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thank you so much!!
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All very good advice!
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thank you!!
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Awesome words to remember!
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indeed! thank you!
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Love this!! Brilliant advice and things I will try.
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Thanks! 🙂 glad you liked it.
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It’s true, social media can really affect our mental health forcing ya to focus on others and their perfections when we should be focused on building ourselves a happy life.
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for sure! that’s why i usually take a little digital breaks & such. it’s good for mental health.
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Agree! Can’t be on the devices all the time, it messes with you.
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I think all of these are so important for mental health! Comparing myself to others and being my own critic are my worst habits.
Ang | https://loseweightwithang.com
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Agreed! at least you have the awareness those habits are there. it’s the first step in moving forward away from such habits.
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Great advice.. Lovely post.
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thank you!
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Thanks for sharing, I really enjoyed reading this. I’m definitely guilty of comparing my life to other people’s far too much, it always feels like everyone else has their life far more sorted out than I do, especially when you only see their highlights on social media. Reading your blog has helped me remember I need to stop myself doing that so much!
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It’s so easy to do & we all are guilty of it. But I always try to remember most of social media is exaggerated & it’s healthier to focus on my own life and make it the best it can be. so happy my post helped you in that way! 🙂
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I love Gilmore Girls! But so much truth in this post. I definitely am my biggest critic and I have to constantly remind myself to stop comparing myself to others. Thank you for posting.
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it’s such a cute show! it takes time. i still work on not getting caught in the comparison game. thanks for commenting 🙂
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Thank you for the reminder, we can be so hard on ourselves. I know I am. But I am learning to be happy just being me.
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that’s the spirit! 🙂 thanks for the comment
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Wonderful post! So true as well, thank you for sharing!
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thank you! 🙂 thanks for commenting
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Love everything about this post B 😍❤🤗 Great advice for all of us to remember!
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Thank you!! 💕 it’s something we always need to remember
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Love this and all the tips you provided. I especially love the tip of being more light hearted I tend to be too serious all the time. I need to relax more lol.. Thanks for sharing this. Really great post on self love.
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Comparison really can be the thief of joy — a really great post to remind us all to make loving ourselves a priority! Thanks for sharing!
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Thank you!! 💕
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These are some great tips to help you on your journey to self love. I am wanting to work on myself this year my physical and mental health. I have been learning how to be kinder to myself and I have been showing up for myself and it is a great feeling to be positive about yourself rather than negative. Thank you for sharing this post. Have a fabulous February!
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This is so great you are doing this for yourself. 💕 thanks for the comment and glad you enjoyed the post. Have a wonderful Feb!!
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I think the best thing I’ve done for myself is to become my own best friend and cheerleader. That’s all you need to deal with all the negativity out there.
All the best, Michelle (michellesclutterbox.com)
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I love this!! Yes! Be your own best friend! 😊💕
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Wonderful advice. The best thing I ever did for myself is to stop worrying what other people think of me and say about me. Once I did that, I experienced freedom like I’d never known. Thank you for posting. 🙂
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that’s wonderful! thanks so much for commenting
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You’re very welcome.
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This is beautifully written✨
We need stop and take a moment and see what we have achieved. I think with this fast faced world, we are constantly trying to play catch-up and forget about present moment.
Self care is holy🧡 x
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thank you!! yes, we need to learn to live more in the present moment. 🙂 thanks for the comment
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This was so much needed! Thank you for this lovely post! Learning to love myself little more everyday and show compassion towards myself x Pen/ whatdidshetype.blogspot.com
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Thank you!! glad you liked it! 🙂 and thanks for commenting
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This post was spot on! I’m good for feeling like everything is failing when one thing isn’t going right. I’ve been a work in progress in that area, and I’m improving more and more everyday! No lies about going back to being children. I often ask my parents if I can come back home. I told them I’d leave my husband and three sons. LOL!
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as long as you are working towards a better you, that’s all that matters. haha!! 🙂 that’s funny. it does seem like life was easier as kids. but we have to grow up eventually i guess lol!
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Thanks a lot for these! These reminders are always so necessary.
And you’re so right about taking care of yourself too. I tend to forget to do this a lot so I created a guide for myself. Check it out here https://themonamodaboard.wordpress.com/2021/01/27/this-is-how-i-am-practising-self-care/
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you’re welcome! i’ll check it out
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Thank you for sharing this! I decided to focus on loving myself more and more since I started working at home at the beginning of 2019. This one will help me so much x
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No problem! So glad it was helpful to you 💕
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Love this! It is so important to love yourself ❤️
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Yes 💕😊
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MI PIACE. DA MICHELE BERRETTA.
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So much great advice in this post. Thanks for sharing!
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Thank you 😊
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Excellent reminders!
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Great post! I’m definitely the girl sitting on the couch eating Cheetos lol. This is all great advice! 😊
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Thank you 💕 haha me too girl me too!
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Well said! There is too much emphasis on conformity in my country, which makes it hard to be an outlier like me. We need to bring American exceptionalism back by embracing all types of diversity, especially diversity of thought, and that starts with embracing our own individualism and uniqueness. Thank you!
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Absolutely! The best way to truly love yourself is to be honest with yourself. What do you like to do, what do you love, etc. By knowing who you are, you’ll know how to approach things. Not comparing yourself with others will always be a challenge I’m willing to take — it’s difficult but it’s one of the best ways to realize my worth. I also agree with what you said about being light-hearted. Taking life too seriously is dangerous and no fun at all. Thanks for sharing!
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Exactly!! 💕 thanks so much, I’m glad the post resonated with you
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Lovely tips!
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Thanks 💕
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Really good advice, I’m guilty of the eating unhealthy when I’m having a bad day! Need to treat myself better!
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thank you!! we all have been there. 🙂
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Great advice! Self-love is so important! I agree, instead of waiting to be happy, we need to stop and enjoy the journey. Thanks for sharing this wonderful post. It is very inspiring!
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thank you!! your comment means a lot!
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Great advice!! lovely post 💕. I stop wondering what other people think of me because I don’t care because I am me and no one can be me because I am myself and I am worthy and unique and I do not need to worry about other people’s opinions. Great reminders for all of us 💕💕
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❤️❤️❤️
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Well written 💕✨
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Thanks!
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