organization, Self Growth

5 Reasons Letting Go Is So Damn Difficult!

Wanting a more simple life starts with letting go of what no longer serves us. Easier said than done am I right? I feel like I say this, but always end up saving tons of questionable items. Why is it so hard to let go in the first place? I wish I could just turn my feelings off for one second.

Recently, I helped my husband downsize his childhood belongings from six large storage containers to only one. It was quite the project but one we both knew was something to tackle. It got me thinking about why we hold onto certain things & also why it can be so hard to finally let go. It’s almost like the longer you own something, you start to believe whatever that something is, must be special & worth holding onto. And we discovered even though he forgot most of what was in these containers, the memories started flooding back. And this is why sentimental item can be the MOST difficult to let go. But any type of belongings, if we place too much meaning on said item can become difficult to throw away. Here are 5 reasons why letting go can be so damn difficult.

You Are Still Living in the Past

Nostalgia can be a precious thing. Whether it’s a smell, an object or even a single thought , these things tie us to what we once were. We almost hold onto things for the sole purpose of trying to preserve our memories.

Especially with physical objects, we almost keep these things with the fear of forgetting. We must remember the most powerful aspect of our memories are ourselves. We must let go of said fear & trust we will remember things in our minds. Again, don’t let your objects hold so much credit. You are far more than what you own.

I don’t know if anyone else feels this way, but sentimental items are very difficult for me to declutter. I have been biting the bullet though & challenging myself to go through these items brutally. And through this process, I’ve learned a lot about myself & the things I hold near & dear to my heart. In my 5 Things To Keep In Mind When Decluttering Sentimental Items, I pinpointed key factors that helped me downsize my keepsakes in half!

I felt like I was holding onto too many past memories that ultimately made me feel stuck & less likely to move forward in my life. Although I still have plenty of sentimental items to look back on & cherish, I allowed myself to be rid of the pointless emotional baggage that was taking up space in my home. You need to remember life is constantly moving & you will have far more memories & keepsakes ahead. Make room for the future by narrowing down your past.

You Feel Guilty Giving It Up

Maybe you have a pit in your stomach for purchasing something so expensive you never use. Or perhaps you were gifted something & although the gesture is always sweet, you just don’t use it. These feelings of guilt should not become a burden to your mind.

If you feel guilty over whether you should get rid of something, you should always be rid of that item. That mental turmoil will only make matters worse. I always believe it is better to let go of something you don’t use so it can be treasured by someone else.

And if you are having difficulty letting go an item because it was either passed down to you by a family member or given to you as a gift, ideally the person shouldn’t be upset if you no longer want something. Either return it to the sender or give it to someone who would better appreciate it. Material items should rarely have such pressures of value. And if they do hold lots of value, finds ways to use it or display it. Otherwise, let it go.

Fear of Needing it in the Future

This concept reminds me of everyone buying tons of toilet paper in the beginning of the pandemic. Fear & consumerism when tied together, create chaos. You can’t go walking around with the mindset of the world is ending or “I’ll never be able to find this again.” That’s when hoarding develops. And we really don’t want that. In today’s world, it is rather easy to find certain items online. If at any point you are missing an item or need it again, you can always repurchase it later.

This is why when shopping I don’t purchase just incase items or bulk items. To me, it just seems like a waste of space, money & product. Save some for the rest of us please. I think a lot of people have this notion that if you hold onto something for those just in case moments, it saves them money in the long run. I have noticed this is a wrong way of thinking.

Rarely do I feel grateful for having kept certain things for those just in case items. For example, I’ve had this Christmas sweater I wore one time but have held onto it JUST IN CASE we have an ugly christmas sweater party to go to. The future is always questionable & who truly new we wouldn’t be having large get togethers with friends for a year. By the time we actually have a party, I’m going to want a brand new outfit!

What Will People Think?

Repeat after me, stop caring what people think of you! If a person truly cares if you get rid of something, maybe you should gift it to them. This is your life to live so if you feel overwhelmed by the clutter in your home, don’t waste anymore time.

I’ll be honest, I probably still own plenty of things other people told us we HAD to have when owning a home. But slowly I will even downsize these items because most MUST HAVE items are useless in my opinion. And if there comes a time we truly need something, we will buy it. Simple as that.

It Hints You Were Wrong

Whatever it may be, it’s ok to admit it wasn’t right & it’s healthy to finally let it go. Life is too short to be living with things & people that don’t serve you. And if anything else, these wrongdoings can be seen as lessons leading us to our correct path.

Admitting you were wrong about something can be a hard pill to swallow. But it’s also extremely human & liberating. Maybe you were wrong about a certain style of clothing working for you. Or in a more deep sense, maybe a certain person in your life is wrong for you. These mistakes & lessons are normal & a part of life.

I truly hope these tips help you have more clarity with the idea of having a clutter free life. Comment down below what holds you back from letting go.



Getting Rid of All My Clothes?! Minimalism Closet Declutter

I don’t know if it’s because last year was such a whirlwind of a year or I’m just sick of 90% of what I own, BUT I had the itch to do a full blown rigorous purge of EVERYTHING I own – starting with MY CLOSET.


So, the majority of my clothing is kept in a shared closet with my boyfriend attached to our bedroom. Surprisingly enough, sharing a closet with him isn’t too bad. He actually owns more clothes than I do! 

My little section consists of two rods. The top rod holds my short sleeve tops & tanks while the bottom half holds my long sleeve shirts & sweaters. All the clothing is organized in color order. But as you can see in the photos, my color palette is rather neutral with a few essential shades. I no longer have the urge to own every color of the rainbow when some just do NOT do me justice.

 On the shelf between the two sections, I keep hoodies. But we don’t need to showcase those as they are so incredibly frumpy but a necessity. 

Now, I COULD store all my clothing in this one particular area & be fine, BUT we have an empty spare room upstairs with an unused closet. So, naturally since I had the option, I was going to claim my territory.

*Chef’s Kiss* to the organization of this closet because even I impress myself sometimes. All the white bins are from Target. I knew I wanted tall containers for the top shelf because it’s a rather high & awkward space. The goal was to make the most use out of this shelf & I think I nailed it. In these containers, I store winter/ski gear in one & Christmas/ holiday shirts & accessories in the other. I don’t reach for these items that often so this was the perfect spot.

On the next shelf down, I have this wicker basket (also from Target) that holds winter hats, gloves, clutches, belts & other random accessories. And if you are wondering where my purses are, I usually store one next to this basket while others are hanging about my room.

So, I consider this closet to be for my formal wear & dress coats. The hanging cubby is a lifesaver for this space. Ideally I would love a wall shelf of shoes one day BUT we are still manifesting that. I store one pair of shoes (mostly) in each slot. The majority are heels (2 pairs of nude) & (3 pairs of black) as well as a few pairs of sandals. The floor of the closet (which isn’t shown) holds a few other pairs of boots & my memory boxes.

I’m a sucker for a good dress coat. These are all “investment” pieces that I’ve had for years. They are classics that won’t necessarily go out of style. In terms of my dresses, I tend to go through these quite a bit. Although I maintain an “outfit repeater” mentality, sometimes dresses are a one & done item. But I do still own a few classics I’ve owned for years. The one red dress in particular, I’ve had since I was 18!


Like I said, with this round of decluttering, I was going to be BRUTAL! I managed to get rid of 4 bags full of items (in the first round) – from ill fitting tops, worn out items, unused accessories, out of style pieces & even new but regretful purchases.

As a minimalist, you would think at some point the decluttering couldn’t be this intense. But I’ve only been on this journey for not quite 5 years & the beginning phase was slow. It hasn’t been since recently, I’ve developed the mindset of being more ok with letting things go. In a lot of ways, I’m still learning.

Along with this notion, all last year I did a low buy where I only purchased necessity items for the most part. So, it’s been a while since I’ve went on a shopping splurge & truly treated myself. I felt like I needed a fresh start & to allow myself to purchase a few replacements.

I would say, the biggest realization to a proper declutter was going through the items in multiple stages. Although the first round went well, I told myself to go through everything again…and again. After about 3 look throughs, I was satisfied with what was left.

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Keeping dresser drawers organized is LITERALLY impossible. I’d much rather have everything in a walk in closet & ditch a dresser all together. The reason is because I hoard the most random items. I guess I consider it hidden away once a drawer is closed. This time, I was going to go HAM on my dresser & truly be real with myself. Here are a few before & after shots.

I managed to get rid of quite a few items out of my dresser drawers including worn out college t-shirts, free t-shirts from random events, socks with holes in them, & a few pairs of shorts & jeans that weren’t flattering anymore.

I plan to continue this journey throughout all aspects of my life including sentimental items, bathroom / hair essentials & social media to name a few. If you are interested in me making a post on any of the mentioned categories please let me know in the comments.